How to keep a marriage last long?

I went to church with Mak this morning and it was sooo good to be back. Kerry(interpreter) and Pastor Ron have been married 40 yrs! They were talking about how they keep their marriage work. There were 11 of them. Can't remember all of them.

1. Can't change ur partner or to try to improve. Only ur partner will do it when he or she want to. Accept it.

2. Don't expect if your wife is not like ur mother or ur husband like ur father. Never compare them. Like u love ur mother's way of cooking but ur wife don't cook that way.

3. Learn to forgive and move on. If keep think too much about an issue will lead to wrong path or more plms.

4. Do lil things for ur partner like do dishes, take trashes out etc. Makes u appreciate ur partner more.. Can't expect 50/50. Sometimes, it will be 10/90. That's part of everyday living. Get use to it.

5. Even if u are not interest in things that ur wife or husband like go to colorado for them. Kerry loves to go there but not Ron. He does it for her because he loves her..

6. Feeling of love. Sometimes ur feeling toward for husband or wife will come and go. Just try to remind ur wife or husband that u love him or her everyday. And good thing about the person.

7. Try to laugh more cuz it's best medicine.

8. No secret w money! Always let each other know.

I couldn't think of 3 more. It was a good one.. They said their marriage are not perfect and it takes a lot of hard work.